I guess the question is whether or not we are willing to learn that way.  It is not the way our hearts naturally want to travel.  Christmastime is so wonderful as a time to see and celebrate with loved ones....family and friends....but it also can teach us many lessons about love.....sacrifice, forgiveness, reconciliation, humility, faithfulness....in a way, it also shows us where we might be lacking as we stop our normal day-to-day activities to focus on our relationships through Christ.  Sometimes, we are confronted with situations where we realize our need to ask GOD to show us the perfect way.